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I've heard of quite a few situations like this. One in my own immediate family.
There's a few thigns you could try:
1. Take the wife aside, and explain to her, calmly, your feelings on the matter. Tell you her you respect your uncle's decision to marry her, and that you know she loves him and he loves her. Understand she is greiving also and this may be her way of doing it. Say you want your chance to say goodbye or visit your uncle.
2. If that doesn't work, ask the nurses if they can help - tell them the situation, again, be calm and try not to resort to insulting the wife. Ask if they can arrange a time for you to visit alone, or ask if they can tell teh wife when you visit that they only want one person in there at a time.
3. Perhaps write the wife a letter. sounds flowerly, but sometimes it can help you and her. Tell her your feelings on the matter, again be firm but not insulting. Express your desire to visit him and that he is your uncle and you have every right to do so.
Don't give up. No matter what the wife tries. Of course you could try being a little overly nice to her, bring her a meal, as if there is anything you can do for her.
Its so important to get to say your goodbyes and spend time with a family member who is dying. So many fob off the chance due to obstructive family members or their own grudges, and end up regretting it sorely years later.
If you do not get an opportunity to visit your uncle before he dies, at least know that you tried everything you could and it was through no fault of your's that you missed out.
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