--B-- wrote:bookofjunon wrote:--B-- wrote:bookofjunon wrote:--B-- wrote:She. Hates. It.
All of my purchases are covert and she even bugs me for coming to this site. I had to hide everything I kept and a lost most of my collection to buy the house. I slowly stash cash and save up, usually a dollar at a time, for all of my TF's.
And for all of you that want to pull that "Be honest with her" crap out on me, please don't.
Don't be honest, just kick her ass to the curb.
My wife supports it, and she knows better than not to. I mean if you don't support things the other person likes, even if you don't like them you are doomed to have a marriage filled with arguements and problems, who needs that?
She should accept you for who you are and not what she expects you to be. Too many men in this day and age are pussy whipped by their wives and can't just stand up for themselves. It's a disgrace. If she doesn't like it, tell her to leave, there are plenty of girls and women out there who will, go find one of those.
That's kinda what I meant with the "Don't tell me to be honest" line People are people, and not everyone likes everything that their spouse likes.
We have been married a long time and have two kids, so honestly, a few toys are not a very good reason to get divorced and never see my kids again.
As I said above, I never said she had to like it, but she needs to accept it. It's part of who you are. As I said, more and more men seem just willing to bend over backwards for as simple piece of tail. I have friends here just like you. Married to a wife they love, some with children and not allowed to enjoy the things that make them happy simply because the wife doesn't approve. It's revolting. I tell them the same thing. People should be allowed to be happy.
I could see if you were wanting to be out at the tavern every night drinking with your buddies like it was with my dad when I was a kid, but you aren't. She has no right to complain. She should consider herself lucky to have you and shut up. I don't mean to offend you or anything, I really don't, but nothing irritates me more than to hear someone can't be the person they are to please a women.
A marriage is a 50-50 street, most people today pay too much attention TV and how families act there. (Everybody Loves Raymond is a perfect example). Husband is a total ass who needs wife to dress him, tell him what to do, how to act, etc... Yet he pays for the cost of living and supports his entire family while living in one of the most expensive cities in tthe world AS A WRITER!!!!! Tell me there isn't something wrong with a society like that?
My apologies for rambling. I just think you should put your foot down, grow a pair and tell her how it's going to be. If she really loves you, she'll have no problem with your being a Transformer fan. Not if she's a smart intelligent human being.
Wow, I didn't realize that you knew everything about me and my relationship with my wife, and about my apparent lack of testicles. You are so right, I need to put that woman in her place. As a matter of fact, what is she doing out of the kitchen in the first place? How dare her. And why should she complain, if I want to spend as much money as I want on TF's instead of buying diapers and groceries. She needs to shut her yap, right! And she certainly "should consider herself lucky to have you and shut up" because I am the most perfect man on the planet and have no faults what so ever and she must be quite the beast to even have a guy in the first place.
I may not be a marrige counseler, but I don't think anyone here in a "50-50 street" has ever told their significant other "how it's going to be" about anything. She has the right to complain on how I spend OUR money. I think that I'd have the right to complain if she went out and bought a pair of shoes each week with OUR money.
I'm not going to get in an argument, and I am not going to say something about most of what was written, but you should really not generalize someone's whole life on one statement written on a message board. I will not be responding to anything else here,so respond with whatever you like.
I don't think that this was meant to be a spouse bashing forum. My wife isn't stupid, she knows that I buy the occasional TF. That doesn't mean she wants to hear about the new classics coming out or if Alternators will come back after the movie line. I am super fan of hockey, but I don't talk to her about it all day every day, because she could care less.
Like I said, it's not worth getting divorced over a bunch of toys. Transformers are not my life. I like to think that I am the "person that I are" even without TF's covering my entire house.
I really liked how you made a statement like "I don't mean to offend you or anything" and following with telling me to "grow a pair".
Nice.
Note to the mods: I really do appologize for stooping to this level, but with statements like those, I felt really had to. Guess that's them new balls growing in. I do try to add positives to the site but understand that I may get something for this. At least I didn't curse!
I am amazed you took that the enitre wrong way. I wasn't attempting to insult you. But seriously you brought up the topic and I replied to it.
The point I tried to make, which I was so surprised you didn't get was she has no right to complain about it. You aren't a drunken buffoon beating his wife and kids, or out doing dope. (now I could be wrong, but I'm guessing you don't do those things).
Wanting to buy a transformer here or there or liking them, or hell, even watching them on the tube shouldn't be an issue.
I must have hit the ball pretty close to home in my last post because you got extremely defensive over something that for the most part was a generalization of most men, not you in particular. In my experience people only get really pissed off when someone tells them the truth and they don't want to admit it.
But that's cool dude, I don't have any hard feelings or want to spend the rest of this thread arguing or anything. I thought I was offering a unique point of view to help you, excuse me for thinking you might wanna talk about it.
), I'd expect people to give me grief. 
How long has he been a robot? 
. My girlfriend is pretty damn cool about the whole thing, she digs my tf tattoos, watches the show with me and my son, and even has her eye on a botcon arcee (just so she can get a girlie)-
- thankfully the feeling passed. 
