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sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:34 pm
by Doubledealer93
i am sick of it. but cant hardly do a damn thing of it.
first, i fell like **** and second, would like to tell a little about myself
i am 14, quiet, big as in strong,(sorry for bragging) i am a nice guy, very polite, short tempered and very smart.
in like a year i have liked 2 girls. in class the only way we could talk is by writing notes. i wrote them each two notes AND NOT A DAMN RESPONSE!!!! i got the cold shoulder. that destroyed me. i was very depressed. and still am today. and i was just wondering how i should treat this. i get really depressed. and any explanation to as why every one i talk to gives me the cold shoulder?
also, i am the only collector i know of in my part of ohio and dont konw any one else that collects TFs besides every one on here

i dont want to do anything else but talk right now. :sad:

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:40 pm
by Quaternion
Dude, start a rock band. If you don't play anything cool - start one anyway or just find some other people who do play and scream your guts out. All that loneliness can be channel into that and then before you know it, girls will be climbing over each other to get with you.

If that doesn't work, just be confident and persistent.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:43 pm
by Doubledealer93
i dont know how/want to play any instruments. define confident and persistent.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:51 pm
by Quaternion
confident: i mean assertive, direct, upbeat. believe that you are totally worth liking - or at least pretend if you dont believe that. on the upside the more you try to be confident in yourself, eventually the more you will gain real confidence.

persistent: if you get the cold shoulder once, try something else. If that doesn't work then keep trying. Write more notes. Send her an email. Sit next to her in class. Call her on the phone. Talk to her after school. Talk to her about her.

Heres a little secret that I used to use when I was your age (it doesn't work much after junior high but sometimes its worth a try). Tell your friends that you like a particular girl. Tell some other people. Eventually this will get around to her. This may actually make her like you. You can even try this with several girls at once.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:58 pm
by Doubledealer93
thanks for the good advice but still depressed. but i dont think that will work :-? cus there are so many people and half dont give a rats ass who you like

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:05 pm
by Quaternion
well, depression isn't a light switch as you well know. when I get depressed, I usually try to channel it into something positive. I'm a musician so I write a song about it. Maybe you could write a story. Write a TF fanfic about a bot in a similar situation. It doesn't matter if its any good. Or draw a picture, write a poem. Again, it doesn't matter if its any good. The point is that you want to get in touch with that feeling. Embrace it even. Then turn it in to something good. Eventually, you won't be depressed anymore AND you will have gotten a lot of practice at something positive (or something that could potentially get you girls).

when I was your age, i was in a similar situation as you. so I I started a band, even though I could barely play guitar.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:07 pm
by robofreak
Here we go again.

First off, you're 14 frikkin years old. You should'nt worry about getting a girlfriend at this time. I'm 18 and have never had a girlfriend. It's not because I'm a loner or anything, but because I'm more focused on developing my friendships with others. If you keep this up you're going to make yourself sick and it sounds like you already have.

Junior high and high school are the worst places to look for a gf. There are a few exceptions, but you'll find others who you may be interested in when you hit college. I know I have.

Just chill, you have your whole life still ahead of you. Focus on your grades and get a degree that makes money. I've seen that those who are nice guys and are able to support a family are the ones women go after. Women for the most part are'nt interested in materials, but who can protect and support them.

Education first, date later. Any questions?

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:11 pm
by Doubledealer93
well i do have a journal i think i could wright in that. and when i get get depressed i cant hardly channel it in to some thing positive it turns in to anger. cant help it. and i dont know how to start a relationship, it has been trial and error. :-?

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:13 pm
by Quaternion
robofreak wrote:Here we go again.

First off, you're 14 frikkin years old. You should'nt worry about getting a girlfriend at this time. I'm 18 and have never had a girlfriend. It's not because I'm a loner or anything, but because I'm more focused on developing my friendships with others. If you keep this up you're going to make yourself sick and it sounds like you already have.

Junior high and high school are the worst places to look for a gf. There are a few exceptions, but you'll find others who you may be interested in when you hit college. I know I have.

Just chill, you have your whole life still ahead of you. Focus on your grades and get a degree that makes money. I've seen that those who are nice guys and are able to support a family are the ones women go after. Women for the most part are'nt interested in materials, but who can protect and support them.

Education first, date later. Any questions?



This is generally good advice. However, I'd like to add that you should not just go for the job that gets you money. Go for the job that makes you happy. In the short term, yeah the high paying job might get you more girls. but those probably aren't the ones you want to take home to your parents.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:14 pm
by Quaternion
doubledealer25 wrote:well i do have a journal i think i could wright in that. and when i get get depressed i cant hardly channel it in to some thing positive it turns in to anger. cant help it. and i dont know how to start a relationship, it has been trial and error. :-?


I am the same way. Often I write songs and it pisses me off. From personal experience though, this gets you through it faster and focuses you more.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:17 pm
by robofreak
I did'nt say get a high paying job. I said get one that makes money to support a family. That's what I'm doing.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:20 pm
by Quaternion
robofreak wrote:I did'nt say get a high paying job. I said get one that makes money to support a family. That's what I'm doing.

I can respect that. Its quite possible to find a job you love and still have plenty of money to support your family though.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:20 pm
by Doubledealer93
robofreak wrote:Here we go again.

First off, you're 14 frikkin years old. You should'nt worry about getting a girlfriend at this time. I'm 18 and have never had a girlfriend. It's not because I'm a loner or anything, but because I'm more focused on developing my friendships with others. If you keep this up you're going to make yourself sick and it sounds like you already have.

Junior high and high school are the worst places to look for a gf. There are a few exceptions, but you'll find others who you may be interested in when you hit college. I know I have.

Just chill, you have your whole life still ahead of you. Focus on your grades and get a degree that makes money. I've seen that those who are nice guys and are able to support a family are the ones women go after. Women for the most part are'nt interested in materials, but who can protect and support them.

Education first, date later. Any questions?



i have a 3.6 GPA grades are not a problem at the moment. and when i have something on my mind like this i cant just *chill*. and i can protect a girl with my life and do any thing to support them. also there are some acceptions at my school. and you are right about one thing i am sick like you said. :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: i can handle a girl friend and my grades at the same time

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:24 pm
by Quaternion
doubledealer25 wrote:
robofreak wrote:Here we go again.

First off, you're 14 frikkin years old. You should'nt worry about getting a girlfriend at this time. I'm 18 and have never had a girlfriend. It's not because I'm a loner or anything, but because I'm more focused on developing my friendships with others. If you keep this up you're going to make yourself sick and it sounds like you already have.

Junior high and high school are the worst places to look for a gf. There are a few exceptions, but you'll find others who you may be interested in when you hit college. I know I have.

Just chill, you have your whole life still ahead of you. Focus on your grades and get a degree that makes money. I've seen that those who are nice guys and are able to support a family are the ones women go after. Women for the most part are'nt interested in materials, but who can protect and support them.

Education first, date later. Any questions?



i have a 3.6 GPA grades are not a problem at the moment. and when i have something on my mind like this i cant just *chill*. and i can protect a girl with my life and do any thing to support them. also there are some acceptions at my school. and you are right about one thing i am sick like you said. :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: i can handle a girl friend and my grades at the same time


i was 17 when I met my wife. Now Im 26. Best thing that ever happened to me. Hell, I'm still in school.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:26 pm
by robofreak
Do yourself a favor and get a second hobby. Dating at 14 almost always leads to disaster. You're going to be even more miserable if you find a girl and breakup with her.

May I invite you to join the wonderful world of Gunpla? A gundam model kit can be very relaxing and can help you get your mind off things.

Quaternion wrote:
robofreak wrote:I did'nt say get a high paying job. I said get one that makes money to support a family. That's what I'm doing.

I can respect that. Its quite possible to find a job you love and still have plenty of money to support your family though.


I knew that. I thought it went without saying though. And also, it's cool to hear that you met your wife at 17. You're one of the lucky few that that happens to.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:30 pm
by Meister cries inside
Channel your depression and lack of love into a cold and dark place in your heart and forget about it for awhile. In 10 years it will all seep out into a bitchin' screenplay that you can make millions of dollars off of and you can buy fly honies whenever you want.

In the meantime, collect G1 Transformers. Their purity will refresh your soul.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:30 pm
by Quaternion
robofreak wrote:Do yourself a favor and get a second hobby.


good advice.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:32 pm
by Doubledealer93
i love gundams any sites you know of where i can get them cheep in price? never had a model kit before. but i think u are right about break ups. they do hurt never been through on but my friend has and he was crying for like three days

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:34 pm
by Quaternion
i still think you should learn to play guitar. :D All every girl really wants is a song written for her.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:35 pm
by robofreak
Meister cries inside wrote:Channel your depression and lack of love into a cold and dark place in your heart and forget about it for awhile. In 10 years it will all seep out into a bitchin' screenplay that you can make millions of dollars off of and you can buy fly honies whenever you want.


Let's try not to make him emo. That's the last thing we need.

Quaternion wrote:
robofreak wrote:Do yourself a favor and get a second hobby.


good advice.


It's helped me so I thought I'd share it.

hobbywave.com has the best prices you can get in North America. Shipping is $10 no matter how big the order size is.

Also, I do all my builds and whatnot at bakuc.com. It's not hard to find me over there.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:36 pm
by Meister cries inside
robofreak wrote:
Meister cries inside wrote:Channel your depression and lack of love into a cold and dark place in your heart and forget about it for awhile. In 10 years it will all seep out into a bitchin' screenplay that you can make millions of dollars off of and you can buy fly honies whenever you want.


Let's try not to make him emo. That's the last thing we need.

Quaternion wrote:
robofreak wrote:Do yourself a favor and get a second hobby.


good advice.


It's helped me so I thought I'd share it.

hobbywave.com has the best prices you can get in North America. Shipping is $10 no matter how big the order size is.

Also, I do all my builds and whatnot at bakuc.com. It's not hard to find me over there.


Emos don't buy fly honies.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:39 pm
by Quaternion
Meister cries inside wrote:Emos don't buy fly honies.

that's because the famous emo-stars don't need to buy them. they are free.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:41 pm
by Meister cries inside
Quaternion wrote:
Meister cries inside wrote:Emos don't buy fly honies.

that's because the famous emo-stars don't need to buy them. they are free.


Emo stars can't buy anything.

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:44 pm
by Doubledealer93
robofreak wrote:
Meister cries inside wrote:Channel your depression and lack of love into a cold and dark place in your heart and forget about it for awhile. In 10 years it will all seep out into a bitchin' screenplay that you can make millions of dollars off of and you can buy fly honies whenever you want.


Let's try not to make him emo. That's the last thing we need.

Quaternion wrote:
robofreak wrote:Do yourself a favor and get a second hobby.


good advice.


It's helped me so I thought I'd share it.

hobbywave.com has the best prices you can get in North America. Shipping is $10 no matter how big the order size is.

Also, I do all my builds and whatnot at bakuc.com. It's not hard to find me over there.



i love hobby wave. but cant buy a damn thing until next or at the end of the month :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: i need those markers for the gundams. and please dont make me emo i have a phobia of them. no offense to any one emo or not

Re: sick of being lonely

PostPosted: Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:46 pm
by robofreak
I don't use the markers. Trust me, those things sick. Come join bakuc and read some posts. We can get you on the right track.