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This might sound wierd, but after i was screwd by a friend i can´t really trust no one and ven. And this is driving me insane.

I´m falling for a girl, that i met in the gym. She´s a freaking sweetheart, beutifull, and has alot of cool hobbies, plus she´s a pet lover like me. Thinh is that i don´t want to be falling for her. i had enought trobule as it is with the last time. Plus with my f*** luck this might crahs and burn horribly.

Thing is is that i don´t hide it very well, either she already knows or she´s ignoring it. But i doubt it. Even third parties have noticed. She´s sorry that she can´t meet me for a coffe, but she´s saying that when the time comes we might go out to the beach or something. part of me wantps to go ahed and see how this ends, maybe difrente that the last times, the other part is fearing any advnces beacuse of the crash and burn part.

Sorry about this. it´s 1 pm here. i just wanted to vent a little.

this is what i think, if you going to crash and burn, enjoy the free fall. in a nutshell, go for it, the absolute worst thing she can do is say no.

Hey, if you are already going in with the "I'm afraid i'll crash and burn" attitude you'll most likely end up crashing and burning. Show some backspine and have confidence and go for it. Body language matters more then words.
And like Heavy B said, the worse you can have is a No. Which will hurt and sting for a bit but it won't kill you.

People tend to desire things more when they think they cannot have them. Girls don't like desperate guys.

Or treat her like crap and she'll come around. She seems the type.

General Magnus wrote:Plus with my f*** luck this might crahs and burn horribly.

I thought you said you had 'burning crabs' for a minute.

Homer Jay wrote:People tend to desire things more when they think they cannot have them. Girls don't like desperate guys.

Or treat her like crap and she'll come around. She seems the type.

All very true...

i've got to agree with these guys, the best thing you can do is get over it and ask her out, if she says no you at least know where you stand with her!

I wholly agree with spoon! show some backspine and just get it over with! you'll only know for sure if you try!

"No" does not equal the end of the world. If it did, well, the world would have ended already.

Give it a shot, if she says no, and/or makes up an excuse. No worries, theres plenty of fish in the sea, you just need to know how to handle your rod, with the right lure and bait. And they'll keep biting.

Yay innuendo!

If you dont ask youll never know........

and knowing is half the battle!

Senor Hugo wrote:"No" does not equal the end of the world. If it did, well, the world would have ended already.

Give it a shot, if she says no, and/or makes up an excuse. No worries, theres plenty of fish in the sea, you just need to know how to handle your rod, with the right lure and bait. And they'll keep biting.

Yay innuendo!

She said that she could go out wth me because she had exams, plus the horse ridding and dance classes. But she´s alread talking of goin to beach in summer

Go for it man! What would be worse, trying and failing or wondering what could have been?

Hate to break it to you, but it sounds to me like she isn't interested.

Godmodule wrote:Hate to break it to you, but it sounds to me like she isn't interested.

trust me, i dond´t hide from her, if she didn´t wanted me around she would have already said.

General Magnus wrote:She said that she could go out wth me because she had exams, plus the horse ridding and dance classes. But she´s alread talking of goin to beach in summer

If she was genuinely interested, she would make time.

Godmodule wrote:Hate to break it to you, but it sounds to me like she isn't interested.

Exactly.

Senor Hugo wrote:Yay innuendo!

no, in your endo!
sorry but it had to be said.

General Magnus wrote:

Godmodule wrote:Hate to break it to you, but it sounds to me like she isn't interested.

trust me, i dond´t hide from her, if she didn´t wanted me around she would have already said.

Maybe, maybe not. Girls don't always come out and say they're not interested in someone. I wouldn't go and assume she's not interested, but her dangling the carrot in front of you like that doesn't sound like good vibes to me.

I know all about the mixed messages girls can send. One time I was at drinking at a bar, this girl comes up to me and introduces herself. She even buys me a beer. I mean, come on! How unheard of is that? Since when does the girl buy the guy a beer? I mean, that's gotta be a sure sign of interest right? But when I invite her to the dance floor she says no, and the evening ends with her patting me on the arm and saying goodnight. Still scratching my head over it, but it goes to show how complicated people can be.

As hard as it may be, you've got to spend some time ignoring her (trust me, I know it's hard, I'm dealing with infatuation myself right now, along with a breakup). Don't be rude and go out of your way to avoid her. Just go through your daily routine and act like nothing else matters. As Homer Jay posted, people desire most what they think they can't have. Take it from me, I've noticed that the more I ignore the ladies, the more they like me.

If you make repeated advances like, "Hey, are your finals over yet?", you're going to come across as too much of an eager beaver. Worse yet, you might even come across as a stalker. Your best bet is to lay low for awhile, pretend you've lost interest, and make her miss the atention she had.
After a time when her finals should be over (probably more like a week after her finals are over) ask her to a movie or something.

Homer Jay wrote:

General Magnus wrote:She said that she could go out wth me because she had exams, plus the horse ridding and dance classes. But she´s alread talking of goin to beach in summer

If she was genuinely interested, she would make time.

Godmodule wrote:Hate to break it to you, but it sounds to me like she isn't interested.

Exactly.

I serisly doubt that part. She has horse ridding lessons, dance classes, plus the gym and school. That sounds that she has alot of busy time. If she said that she couldn´t do it and gave a sorry ass exucse, then i would certaly agree with you.

I've noticed that the more I ignore the ladies, the more they like me.

Shame that doesn't happen for me.

I would say what others have said. Don't keep asking her when her finals are over, just go about your normal business. Eventually, try again. If she's still interested, it would seem genuine and I say go for it. If she aint interested, then she was just after attention.
But you should go for it. Recently, I told a lass I liked about it. She said we can only ever be friends, but she appreciated me telling her and we are still good friends.

*Reads over what he just wrote*

My GOD! I just gave advice about women! What is wrong with me?!