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i was planning to ask a out this one girl but i so scared what should i do

Suck it up and do it, and then get over it if she says no.

No sense in dwelling on things.

hey! i had three threads on this same subject! any way yes what burn said. suck it up tell her you like her and go in for the kill.

Best thing you need to do is tell her how you feel about her, Have courage and ask her out. If she says no dont beat yourself up about it.

gentron wrote:i was planning to ask a out this one girl but i so scared what should i do

Cheesy pick up lines work best especially if the girl is a dumb dumb or a ho.

"Nice Legs. When Do they open?"

"Your like a parking ticket cause you got fine written all over you."

"Nice shoes wanna F#$%?"

A woman's advice: don't worry too much about trying to look cool. First, it always backfires. Second, the girl will secretly like it if you seem a little nervous--it's really flattering to her ego! I once had a guy try to chat me up by saying "You have long hair." He looked so mortified after he said that, as if he'd realized that was about the most Captain Obvious thing he could have said, that we both burst out laughing.

Think of it almost as a test--if you look awkward and she makes fun of you, she's shallow and not really worth your time. If she's cool with it, you've got a winner!

Best of luck!
HK, not really one to be giving dating advice.

It's pretty much a problem when you have 100+ kiddie toys.

I guess a girl's advice will trump anything a guy says, but I'll try to follow up anyway.

It's like a rollercoaster. You're petrified while you're on it, but the aftereffect is the best feeling ever. Just go up, say the total truth, be mature, and that's it.

I once used to ask girls by saying, "I think you're really pretty and I'd like to get to know more about you." No fuss, no muss. Just out with it. Might have been totally off, but the women appreciated the honesty nonetheless. No mincing words or trying to beat around the bush.

It helps to present yourself nicely though. Put on some nice clothes, good haircut, etc. etc.

Yeah, Me Grimlock and the others have good ideas there. Don't stress out too much about it. Don't gush. The fate of the universe is not resting on that moment. You and she might be able to have good times together, so why not say Hi?

Confidence!

Aside from not smelling bad, little else matters.

That's a hard thing to gather up. It involves not being afraid to fail...and fail you will, many times. So, accept it and get over it. When she, or another says 'no', it's NO BIG DEAL.

Don't take rejection as a sign that you're not good enough. You really have to look at it by saying, 'She realized she wasn't cool enough for me. Good thing we figured that out early.' Then move on.

You'll find someone easily if you can do this, because nothing will bother you and you'll have the confidence to try again.

Also, as a side note. If you ever feel you're making desperate pleas or acting overbearing...stop. Desperation makes you glow in the dark.

Coughler wrote:

gentron wrote:i was planning to ask a out this one girl but i so scared what should i do

Cheesy pick up lines work best especially if the girl is a dumb dumb or a ho.

"Nice Legs. When Do they open?"

"Your like a parking ticket cause you got fine written all over you."

"Nice shoes wanna F#$%?"

Oh pease

Counterpunch is correct, girls seem to like confident guys.

Burn wrote:Suck it up and do it, and then get over it if she says no.

No sense in dwelling on things.

I approve of this method.

[quote="Counterpunch"]Confidence!
THIS IS KEY! Women of all ages smell confidence! It's an aphrodisiac to them!

Aside from not smelling bad, little else matters.
THIS IS EVEN MORE KEY!

I don't know how old you are, but the cheesy pick up lines def. do work if they are funny! Someone else let so go...here are a few more of my favs:

Are those space pants your wearing? Becasue your arse is out of this world!

Draw a big circle on a piece of paper. Write beneath it: If you can fit your mouth around this, I want to marry you.

All-time favorite and funniest ever: Did you ever work on a chicken farm? Cuz you certainly know how to rasie a c*^k!

Just stay cool, don't stink, and if you get turned down don't act like it's the end of the world. Act as if you were only moderately intereseted in the first place. Rejection works both ways! Woman, along with confidence, generally have a feeling to be needed/wanted/etc. Use this against them. It has worked for me in the past!

Go forth with this knowledge we have bestowed upon you! Go! Procreate! Create another soldier in the fight against Communism!

Burn wrote:Suck it up and do it, and then get over it if she says no.

No sense in dwelling on things.

it only happens every bluemoon, but i fully agree with burn.

as for the cheauvanist comments, there great around the guys, but girls seldomly like those kinda things. major plus if they do, but not alot of them buy it.

Bro all that i can recomend is that you be yourself be a confidnet an positive that you can never failed me try to find out her favorite places before so you can kinda build up an idea where she might like to be taken and just try the usual line of i was wondering if you might like to go out for a meal/drink ofr catch a flick sometimes it has woked for me but your confidence is the key really.

Nothing I can realy say beyond what is already here.

Burn is right that you should just do it, and be ready for whatever happens. And have that confidence in yourself, because unlike in some shows, you don't want to be that guy who after a girl says yes, looks like an idiot because he can't believe she did.

Be yourself, try not to worry if you are rejected because it's not the end of the world, and act natural.

Counterpunch is right about not smelling bad, but using too much Axe does not make you smell good either.

Some girls make better friends than dates too. I always thought of a date as being really formal, scared the heck out of me. So if she says no, it might not be because you did anything wrong.

Since you ask on the forum, it seems that it might be that you just need the confidence to go for it. Good Luck.

Post how it came out.

Two Words:

Nude Spaceman

Lacks info. Is she a friend, or a virtual stranger?

Counterpunch wrote:Confidence!...

...Don't take rejection as a sign that you're not good enough. You really have to look at it by saying, 'She realized she wasn't cool enough for me. Good thing we figured that out early.' Then move on.

Man, where were you like 8 years ago?.. I could have used that kind of advice back then

But seriously gentron theres some good solid advice here.. Alot of people here have hit the proverbial nails on their metaphoric heads. Take heed of their wisdom!

I honestly think I just got damn lucky.. first time I met my now fiancee the first thing I said to her was that she smelt nice (which she did!.. to be fair she always smells nice.. lol)

I wouldnt have thought 2 and a half years or so down the line we'd be living together, engaged and seriously giving thoughts to having children!! lol..

I think the most important thing, speaking from experience, is to remain calm when your asking her, dont make too big a deal out of it, what ever the outcome.

Second guessing either yourself or anything she says is a big no no to. I've come to a lot of very stupid conclusions in the past by second guessing myself and for a time it turned me into an utter agoraphobic wreck. So yeah, dont do that! Heh..

Girls can be a daunting thing indeed.. just stay cool and dont let it get on top of you and you'll be fine

Now get out there, suck it up, stay calm and collected, ask this girl out and let us all know how it goes

Cyber Bishop wrote:

Coughler wrote:

gentron wrote:i was planning to ask a out this one girl but i so scared what should i do

Cheesy pick up lines work best especially if the girl is a dumb dumb or a ho.

"Nice Legs. When Do they open?"

"Your like a parking ticket cause you got fine written all over you."

"Nice shoes wanna F#$%?"

Oh pease

Counterpunch is correct, girls seem to like confident guys.

Girls like guys who make them look good. Guys with money and half decent car and fat bank account and treat them like bags of ****.Before you attack me about this keep in mind im refering to most girls not all. I have had a couple instances dating the sexy rich hottie but in those days i didnt have a decent car or job i was in school and all my cash went to that. I raised my standards to girls who didnt have 30 Guess purses and 300 outfits with price stickers still on them. I met a decent down earth who is really good looking and nice. And what do you know now? i have a nice car and money now.

Did you ask her yet?

gentron wrote:i was planning to ask a out this one girl but i so scared what should i do

Don't take no for an answer unless she's obviously serious about it.

Women are programmed at an instinctive level to test potential mates. That means you'll most likely get the brush-off first time.

Try something like this: (stolen shamelessley from David DeAngelo's newsletter)
You: "Hey, do you have a phone number?"
Her: "No, sorry."
You: "Ok, how about an email address?"
Her: "No, I don't have a computer." (if she's still making eye-contact and communicating with you in more than one syllable, then she's interested, so carry on)
You: "Do you have electricity and running water?"
Her: "Of course I do! I'm not poor."
You: "Ok, then you really should have a phone."
Hand her a pen and paper.
You: "Go on, I promise I'll call you five times a day, every day."
Cue wry smile.
Her: "Ok, there you go." (laughing if she gets the joke)
You: "Cool, maybe I'll call you some time. Oh, I have to go I have [insert activity here] to take care of, bye."

If she's blunt with you, just saying "no" and trying to ignore you, tells you specifically to leave her alone, not even making eye contact or shifting her weight between feet then chances are she's uninterested and you can move onto the other millions of fish in the sea. "No", especially shouted, or emphasised, and/or accompanied by the evil eye, means no.

Remember:
Your time is valuable.
Whatever you want to do together, you're doing it yourself anyway, you just thought she might like to follow along.
Always finish on a high, there's no point dragging out your contact until it becomes boring. Leave her wanting more.
Let her miss you, don't call too soon after getting the number, three days should be plenty.

As above nothing is sexier than confidence, as long as you're not a prick about it, and as long as you're not walking around looking like its halloween, or a hobo, you probably won't go far wrong.

Try to wear colours that don't clash (black and white are fine together). Only G2 Megatron can make purple on green look good.

Badass Grimlock wrote:It's pretty much a problem when you have 100+ kiddie toys.

I see no problem with that *looks at her own collection of more stuff than that...*

Energon wrote:Counterpunch is right about not smelling bad, but using too much Axe does not make you smell good either.

Some girls make better friends than dates too. I always thought of a date as being really formal, scared the heck out of me. So if she says no, it might not be because you did anything wrong.

Bingo! And you know what, sometimes we gals get just as terribly nervous as guys do. I think my worst habit is that I'm so _not_ used to getting asked out or anything that I don't know what to say/do when I finally _do_ get asked... I just stand there looking rather stupid wondering "oh crap, how do I react?!?!"...

So trust me guys, you're not always the nervous ones. *raises hand* Guilty as charged.