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Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Wed Mar 11, 2009 6:48 pmby God Optimus Prime
Jessica Logan, 18, hanged herself after her boyfriend circulated a nude photo of her
More and more teenagers are getting caught "sexting," or sending racy, revealing or nude pictures of themselves on their cell phones. But when that picture gets in the wrong hands, it can be devastating. One local couple says "sexting" cost them their daughter.
Jessie Logan was 18 years old and about to graduate from Sycamore High School when a nude picture she sent to her boyfriend was sent to hundreds of students at schools around the Tri-State.
Last May, Jessie talked to News 5's Sheree Paolello about how embarrassed and humiliated she was. She said she was being harassed and teased by other students, at home, at school and when she went out.
As she tried to explain what it was like, Jessie broke down crying. "I still get harassed and stuff," she said. "I just want to make sure no one else will have to go through this same thing."
Jessie was trying to be strong. She wanted to warn other parents and kids. But Jessie's mom, Cynthia Logan, says the teasing turned to torture.
"She was called filthy names, things thrown at her," said Cynthia. "Every single place she went they knew about that picture, they saw the picture. They knew about the picture! It's abuse. She was abused."
Cynthia says the moment her daughter's private picture was sent out for everyone to see, things spiraled out of control. Jessie's grades plummeted, she started skipping school and Cynthia says when Jessie would go to school, she would hide in the bathroom to avoid being teased.
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That's sad. Someone needs to get ahold of the idiot boyfriend and beat some sense into him.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Thu Mar 12, 2009 9:01 amby cybercat
I know it's bad taste to speak ill of the dead, but I cannot wrap my mind around how dumb you would have to be to take pornographic pictures of yourself and send them to someone in the first place. I know, I know, I'm old, I'm unhip, I'm a prude...whatever. Fact: no one will ever find a nudie pic of me on the hinterwebz.
Now, this could be because
a) I realize that just like women, men, during bad break-ups, can get angry and retaliatory and that image might be misused,
b) I'm ugly, so the only use of nudie pics of me would be to torment Gitmo prisoners and that qualifies as 'cruel and unusual punishment'
or c) I just might want to do something with my life that involves being respected and the last thing I want is for a bunch of news reporters to dig up a horrible pic of me from way back when I was young and stupid. Bad enough they *can* find pics of me with that horrible 80s Jersey hair. Or the blue hair with nose piercings from my college days. Oy.
Now, you might protest that you think your bod is hot and beautiful and pictures of you nekkid slathered in crisco do not show a lack of self-respect but quite the opposite. That's cool. But you still won't convince me that *everyone* seeing that picture will think that about you. And you don't know the uses that pic will be put to. Any of you manly men here want to have Bubba in Supermax fondling himself while he looks at a picture of your junk?
HK, Medusa's sister.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Thu Mar 12, 2009 12:18 pmby TRANS+CRAZY
I was reading about this over at TFW2005.
Personally, I think that the girl shouldn't have sent that nude pic of herself in the first place. It's also the boyfriend's fault that he sent the pic to somebody else, who then sent it to friends.
Also, if her parents, her teachers, and the school counselors had noticed something was wrong with her, they should have took her aside and get her to open up. They could have helped her and therefore prevent her from committing suicide. But now they realize how much pain she was in and are going to spend the rest of their lives thinking, "Why couldn't I have done something for her?"
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Thu Mar 12, 2009 1:53 pmby Senor Hugo
See, not to speak ill of the dead as well, but she shouldn't have sent the photo to her boyfriend.
However the boyfriend should be held accountable as well, sending something of that intimate of nature requires a good deal of trust between sender and sendee, she trusted him, but he didn't deserve that trust. Granted as a hormonal teenager you get a photo like that you giggle like a retard say "hehehehe boobies" a few times and probably show it off to some friends.
Which just shouldn't be done, I agree with HK in that one should have respect for oneself, however you should have respect for others as well, especially in this type of situation. One should be able to confide something in a person, especially someone they are dating, without worrying about it getting around.
But then, if this was a perfect world, we wouldn't need Walgreens.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Thu Mar 12, 2009 3:11 pmby Shadowman
She sent a nude picture of herself to someone else and didn't expect it to begin circulation? Did she ever use the internet? The only difference between her and, say, the Star Wars Kid is that the Star Wars Kid intended for that to be private.
Now that's not to say the boyfriend is completely devoid of guilt; it's one thing to show a friend or two who you know are going to keep things on the down-low, it's another entirely to send it to everyone.
But then I guess it's unavoidable; people are going to come in here and call for the boyfriend's blood, saying it's all his fault aside from the fact that everyone's to blame.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Thu Mar 12, 2009 9:27 pmby Siren Prime
I pity (and at the same time DO NOT pity) anyone in this situation.
The girl was stupid to take and share nude pictures of herself.
The guy was a $%@#! for spreading it all over the place.
I know she was hurting, but I will alway believe that suicide is a selfish and cowardly way of getting out of things.
Think of her poor mother who had to find her child swinging from the ceiling by her neck.
Sorry if that's too harsh for anyone, but it's true.
And that boy may have been jilted, but how CLASSLESS do you have to be to do that to someone out of spite?
It was her own choice to kill herself, but I do agree that he needs a serious beating. And I hope he feels partially responsible.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 12:30 amby Scatterlung
Here' some hippy **** to consider:
When you're in a relatioship with someone, you tend to trust them. A lot.
I don't think it crossed her mind that the person she trusted enough with her body would go and do something like this. Some people are just not that good a judge of character.
But it doesn't occur in the mind of the smitten that their partner might turn around one day and do something this humiliating.
Kids do things like this. Because of naivity and hormones and whatever.
So I think only the boyfriend can really be held accountable. Loads of partners share photos, but it takes the particularly stupid to trivialise the romantic nature of it and turn it into something damaging.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 7:47 amby Tough Scorponok
What Pisses me off about this whole thing, is the fact that No one, who saw the Picture of her, nude, didnt feel bad about sending or forward it to anyone.People dont care no more, what effects on someones Psyche that can cause. Now the Poor Teenage girl is dead, due to some a$$ h0le who pretended to be her bf.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 8:52 amby Robot4762
Scatterlung wrote:Here' some hippy **** to consider:
When you're in a relatioship with someone, you tend to trust them. A lot.
I don't think it crossed her mind that the person she trusted enough with her body would go and do something like this. Some people are just not that good a judge of character.
But it doesn't occur in the mind of the smitten that their partner might turn around one day and do something this humiliating.
Kids do things like this. Because of naivity and hormones and whatever.
So I think only the boyfriend can really be held accountable. Loads of partners share photos, but it takes the particularly stupid to trivialise the romantic nature of it and turn it into something damaging.
You didn't mention fire? odd.
What an ass! Does anyone think the "Everyone knows her" thing was a little over exagerated? Everyone didn't have that picture. I don't. I doubt anyone on Seibs has it. No one at my school has it. Why couldn't she move out-of-state? That's my 2 cents.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 11:12 amby Scatterlung
Space Ace 24 wrote:What an ass! Does anyone think the "Everyone knows her" thing was a little over exagerated? Everyone didn't have that picture. I don't. I doubt anyone on Seibs has it. No one at my school has it. Why couldn't she move out-of-state? That's my 2 cents.
They meant everyone in their school, I think.
And if she was sensitive enough, it needn't have been in the hands of more than a few to embarrass her.
And you shouldn't have to move out of state for some one elses asshattery.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 11:25 amby Tekka
I hope the guilt destroys his life.
I cannot abide people who are disloyal, especially in circumstances like this.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 11:48 amby Hard Hacker
I'd blame the boy. Here's why:
There's a lot of trust in doing such a thing. Obviously, one would assume that the girl was trusting enough of the boy to do such a thing. One would also assume that he'd be mature enough to keep it to himself. Being spiteful is incredibly childish, and if I were in such a situation, I'd respectfully dispose of the photo.
However, I'm not the guy. I just think it's a shame that she'd be called such things. Young people do this sort of thing nowadays, and I'd think it hypocritical to have judged her in a harsh manner. I suppose "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone", as much as I hate to remind myself I'm Catholic, would apply here.
They're near the same age as I. If he intends to do that for every breakup, then he's got a lot of growing up to do mentally.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 11:59 amby Nymph
The guy is a total ass , but what do you expect from an immature high school boy?? She trusted him and he destroyed her!Its too bad she didn't get help.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 4:20 pmby Wheeljack35
How does something like this make you want to off yourself?
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 5:23 pmby Shadowman
Wheeljack35 wrote:How does something like this make you want to off yourself?
So I take it you've never been teased and humiliated by everyone at your high school?
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 5:44 pmby Siren Prime
Shadowman wrote:Wheeljack35 wrote:How does something like this make you want to off yourself?
So I take it you've never been teased and humiliated by everyone at your high school?
I doesn't take much to make you want to disappear off the face of the Earth.
I never kill myself, but everyone's had a time or two when they just wanted to go away and make the pain stop.
I still think the girl was wrong to kill herself, but it's too late now. And as for the boy, he might be next.
I hope not, but with all those people hating him, he may follow her example. That would be very pathetic.
Maybe he should move out of state.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 5:56 pmby cybercat
Shadowman wrote:Wheeljack35 wrote:How does something like this make you want to off yourself?
So I take it you've never been teased and humiliated by everyone at your high school?
I was. What's your point? I was the valedictorian of my high school, overweight, with glasses, the whole pathetic nerd package. Hell, I was even in the marching band. And wrote poetry. I had one girl try to set my hair on fire because (literally) I gave her boyfriend the time of day--he didn't have a watch, I did. When I was assigned the captain of the football team as my partner in mandatory gym-dance-class, he seemed to enjoy kicking me a lot. Either that or he was the most uncoordinated football player ever; which, considering their record, is entirely possible.
Never wanted to kill myself, though, because of those little pantywaists. Even then, I knew that in five years, ten years, I'd look back on them and they'd still be...there, and I'd be waaaay somewhere else and who's the loser now?
Since high school, I've served my country, jumped out of airplanes, raced motorcycles, gotten a post-graduate degree, travelled to a half-dozen different countries, and had a generally amazing time.
The captain of that football team? Yeah, he's a stockboy at Walmart. I ran into him about a year ago when I was visiting my parents for the holidays, and all he could talk about was this one game in our junior year of school. Like nothing had happened between then and now.
If I'd let those morons get to me back then, how could I enjoy such sweet, sweet revenge now?
HK, revenge really is a dish best served cold.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 6:20 pmby Shadowman
That's good for you, but you're not everybody, and not everyone shares your mindset. Some people are much more sensitive to such things than others.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 6:42 pmby robofreak
When you think about it, both the boy and girl along with their parents are to blame.
The girl should have had better sense. I'm the type of guy though who would break up with someone if they started sending me nude pictures. Also, why weren't her parents raising her to not be that free with her body?
The guy was an idiot and I'd bet $10 that he was probably drunk or something when he thought it would be cool to send the pic to everyone. Also, why didn't his parents teach him to have more respect for women?
To me, all this goes back to the parents. Where were they when their kids needed to be taught how to respect themselves and others?
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 6:48 pmby Wheeljack35
Shadowman wrote:Wheeljack35 wrote:How does something like this make you want to off yourself?
So I take it you've never been teased and humiliated by everyone at your high school?
Oh hell yeah I was but guess what?
I'm here and I graduated 25 years ago
...and no i'm not a a zombie
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 7:35 pmby Archanubis
Shadowman wrote:Now that's not to say the boyfriend is completely devoid of guilt; it's one thing to show a friend or two who you know are going to keep things on the down-low, it's another entirely to send it to everyone.
I think there is plenty of blame to go around in this case.
Scatterlung wrote:Kids do things like this. Because of naivity and hormones and whatever.
Kids aren't the only people who can act irresponsibly and without thinking. Depending on one's personality and situation, anyone of any age can be a vindictive and/or stupid SOB. Otherwise, there wouldn't be any material for my morning radio show's "Stupid Criminal File."
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 7:48 pmby Shadowman
Wheeljack35 wrote:Shadowman wrote:Wheeljack35 wrote:How does something like this make you want to off yourself?
So I take it you've never been teased and humiliated by everyone at your high school?
Oh hell yeah I was but guess what?
I'm here and I graduated 25 years ago
...and no i'm not a a zombie
Unfortunately, not everyone can take humiliation the same way. Which is why this thread exists in the first place.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 8:39 pmby Wheelimus Prime
jumped in a little late to this.
I think initially the girl is to blame for sending the pics in the first place, i mean,, i dont even trust some of my friends with personal problems, let alone something that serious.
this coming from a kid where most of the high school kids are "parents" anyways with what the above poster is saying:
im probably the most made fun of kid in my grade. does it bother me no, not really because i have other problems to deal with.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 8:44 pmby Venomous Prime
Wheelimus Prime wrote:anyways with what the above poster is saying:
im probably the most made fun of kid in my grade. does it bother me no, not really because i have other problems to deal with.
But, torture from school added onto your life problems can cause a lot of problems.
Torment at home and school led me to thinking about suicide quite a few times. Does that mean I'm a coward for considering it? No, it means that I've been scraping at the bottom of the barrel looking for help that's never really there and I keep myself alive. She shouldn't have killed herself, but I can't fault her for it. I've been there.
Re: Teen Hangs Herself After Her Boyfriend Circulated Nude Photo
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Mon Mar 16, 2009 10:53 amby cybercat
original sin wrote:
But, torture from school added onto your life problems can cause a lot of problems.
Torment at home and school led me to thinking about suicide quite a few times. Does that mean I'm a coward for considering it? No, it means that I've been scraping at the bottom of the barrel looking for help that's never really there and I keep myself alive. She shouldn't have killed herself, but I can't fault her for it. I've been there.
Good heavens no. The difference is twofold. First, you *considered* but ultimately didn't go through with it. Trust me, when I got myself all crippled like, there were days from the pain alone, much less the unhelpful attitudes of others (people presuming you're stupid because you're in a wheelchair, my mother sobbing that 'now you'll never walk down the aisle at your own wedding', my CO blaming the whole incident on me), I considered it too. As a service to humanity, since it seemed everyone would be better off without me. Too bad, suckers! Y'all are stuck with me!!!!! (muahahahaha).
Second, you didn't do anything so dumb as to give someone ammunition with which to shoot you. You most likely bore no part in their attacks on you (you didn't send anyone nudie pix of yourself). It's worse, because it's more *unfair*, of course, to you--you didn't do anything to deserve what you got. Different battle. Tougher battle, I'd say, too, what you went through.
HK, who learned that the best way to disarm the bullies was to school them in how uncreative their insults were. Fat? Ugly? Stupid? C'mon. You can do better than that. Apparently, they couldn't.