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Sooooo my previous ex was a stripper. I made a decision never to do that again. So I end up with a very responsible girl who pretty convinces me and my family that she is the one.

Last night she comes over and dumps my butt. Now, of course, there was absolutely no good reason given for this so i'm a little baffled. Oh well, life moves on.

Yup, tragicly it's true, I got the "Let's be friends" speach. A speach coming from someone who had adimately protested that you can't be friends with your exes. I figure she was just looking for forgiveness or vindication or what have you.

Suddenly the stripper doesn't seem so bad. Don't worry, I know better.

Okay, this is a rant. I will just dedicate this as a Lament to the recently dumped. Go team go.

Cheers,

Sorry to hear that, man. That's such an awful feeling, being dumped. The sad thing is, when a girl says "we should be friends" or whatever, she doesn't mean it. I don't understand that whole thing.

I had gotten that "let's be friends" speech so many times....& most of them I never even got to go out with....they just shot me down before the even gave me a chance.

Seriously, that's usually a bit much to ask..it's really a nice way of saying, "stop looking to me for anything other than passive comradary, cause you're not getting anything else from me." & the problem is when you start to think of someone as more than just a friend you'll always see them as potentially more. Even if you repress that, somewhere in the back of your head you're still thinking of them being more than friends....& the only real cure is if you later find out something about them that makes you glad you never got a chance.

Personally, I'm glad I'm out of the rat race, & have no intention of getting back in any time soon. I finally found someone that likes me for who I am, & I've now been married for 6 years, have 2 kids, & I couldn't be happier...well, as far as relations are concerned....finances right now are a different story.

Women just say it so they aren't just dumping you completely from their lives. It's so they don't feel so guilty and to soften the blow. Kind of the same with the "it's not you, it's me" crap.

Damn, other people have put it so much better than me.

Moonbase2 wrote:Women just say it so they aren't just dumping you completely from their lives. It's so they don't feel so guilty and to soften the blow. Kind of the same with the "it's not you, it's me" crap.

That's exactly what's going on. It's just to aleviate the guilt on her part. Well, she'll get no such satisfaction. I just gave her the two boot salute when that went down. Out of my appartment you go. I need space and time to forget and just fall out of love sort to speak. Sometimes friendship can come about..but it's an anomoly if it does. Rare.

I'm glad she decided to tell me AFTER the champaign and dinner I made her.

I was particularily impressed how people (and when I say people I mean her) always say "the last thing I want to do is hurt you" yet that always ends up being the first thing they do.

Moonbase2 wrote:Women just say it so they aren't just dumping you completely from their lives. It's so they don't feel so guilty and to soften the blow. Kind of the same with the "it's not you, it's me" crap.

When I hear the feind speech I just get mad and yell

proximus wrote:

Moonbase2 wrote:Women just say it so they aren't just dumping you completely from their lives. It's so they don't feel so guilty and to soften the blow. Kind of the same with the "it's not you, it's me" crap.

That's exactly what's going on. It's just to aleviate the guilt on her part. Well, she'll get no such satisfaction. I just gave her the two boot salute when that went down. Out of my appartment you go. I need space and time to forget and just fall out of love sort to speak. Sometimes friendship can come about..but it's an anomoly if it does. Rare.

I'm glad she decided to tell me AFTER the champaign and dinner I made her.

I was particularily impressed how people (and when I say people I mean her) always say "the last thing I want to do is hurt you" yet that always ends up being the first thing they do.

Sorry, dude, women can be very...painful. Well, women do really hate dumping people if they have any kind of soul, and there's not much really they can do to soften the blow, so they resort to this generic stuff to try. But sometimes there's something she's not saying when this happens. God, I don't miss dating sometimes!

When I hear the feind speech I just get mad and yell[/quote]

One time I was dumped and I didn't even get that! I was just ignored and had to get a friend to talk and tell me what was going on. I was then informed, when the guy finally got the balls to talk to me, that he still liked his ex (she wanted NOTHING to do with him). And that was that, so long!

Damn sucks dude-whole long were u with her?

I have only had to dump someone once and I am proud to say that i did not use a tacky catch phrase.

I went out with a totally psycho whore for 4 years, we even have a kid together and she was always treating me like crap-cheating on me, breaking up with me for a weekwnd if she wanted to go out and score, etc.
One time she tells me she needs some space, so i take the first step and go out that night score and dump her ass for good the next morning.

Instead of sayong "Lets be friends" I said, I know u are evaluating ur feelings for me-but dont bother i am finished with u" or words to that effect.

Very liberating, although tough to do, moe people oughta fess up and be honest-if something isa gonna hurt either way ehy be decptive?

Anywho condolances

Moonbase2 wrote:Women just say it so they aren't just dumping you completely from their lives. It's so they don't feel so guilty and to soften the blow. Kind of the same with the "it's not you, it's me" crap.

You know what? I would respect them more if they had the guts to tell the truth f*** the "let´s be friends" c*ap!

General Magnus wrote:

Moonbase2 wrote:Women just say it so they aren't just dumping you completely from their lives. It's so they don't feel so guilty and to soften the blow. Kind of the same with the "it's not you, it's me" crap.

You know what? I would respect them more if they had the guts to tell the truth f*** the "let´s be friends" c*ap!

If she were cheating would you want to know? Or would you rather get that "friends" stuff? See, to her that sounds better than telling you she's with someone else. And she doesn't look as bad. It's perfectly logical to the dumper.

If you get tired of someone or you have no chemistry, you should just say it's not working out and you want to move on. That would be better than not being truthful.

Man with all this "F" freinds talk it makes me sad I don't have an "F" Buddy

Wheeljack35 wrote:Man with all this "F" freinds talk it makes me sad I don't have an "F" Buddy

Well my "F" buddy has been out of town for two months; that's why I talk to you guys all night long!

Moonbase2 wrote:If she were cheating would you want to know? Or would you rather get that "friends" stuff? See, to her that sounds better than telling you she's with someone else. And she doesn't look as bad. It's perfectly logical to the dumper.

Personally, I'd want to know so I could be suitably p*ssed and not have to go through the potential "was it me" phase. But obviously the dumper wants to get away as guilt-free as possible, so "friends stuff" it is.

Moonbase2 wrote:If you get tired of someone or you have no chemistry, you should just say it's not working out and you want to move on. That would be better than not being truthful.

True story. I've only had to break up with someone once, and it was just that; we hadn't been together long, and she was nice and all, but it blatantly wasn't going to go anywhere. I said as much, and she agreed. Sorted.

Would that all breakups could be so simple and amicable...

Is it true that guys really get over it a lot faster than girls? Girls usually have some crying sessions, you know, some retail therapy, etc, and pine for months if they really liked the guy, while guys seem to just be pissed for a few days (yet are pretty much normal) then go on their merry way.

I've never really dumped someone like that. I've cut things off before a relationship truly started so I wouldn't lead someone on, but I've never dropped anyone like a damn hot potato. If I start dating you, you have to really screw up or break up with me (or die, in one case). I'm very loyal (never cheated in my life).

Moonbase2 wrote:

Wheeljack35 wrote:Man with all this "F" freinds talk it makes me sad I don't have an "F" Buddy

Well my "F" buddy has been out of town for two months; that's why I talk to you guys all night long!

You bad girl

Wheeljack35 wrote:

Moonbase2 wrote:

Wheeljack35 wrote:Man with all this "F" freinds talk it makes me sad I don't have an "F" Buddy

Well my "F" buddy has been out of town for two months; that's why I talk to you guys all night long!

You bad girl

Hey, it keeps me outta trouble! It's Saturday night and here I am talking to you nerds, heating up a chicken pot pie!

Oh I'm a nerd now?

Wheeljack35 wrote:Oh I'm a nerd now?

I mean that in a very loving way. Not saying you're a nerd, per se, but I've never dated a man that wasn't, so I've got a soft spot for em.

I surely am...

Ah, I hope I didn't offend you...

Moonbase2 wrote:Is it true that guys really get over it a lot faster than girls? Girls usually have some crying sessions, you know, some retail therapy, etc, and pine for months if they really liked the guy, while guys seem to just be pissed for a few days (yet are pretty much normal) then go on their merry way.

I've never really dumped someone like that. I've cut things off before a relationship truly started so I wouldn't lead someone on, but I've never dropped anyone like a damn hot potato. If I start dating you, you have to really screw up or break up with me (or die, in one case). I'm very loyal (never cheated in my life).

It took me close to a year to get over my ex

I was so in love with her I was on an emotional roller coaster for a very long time

Oh. 'Cause I thought we were geeks...

Sorry to hear that...

Moonbase2 wrote:Is it true that guys really get over it a lot faster than girls? Girls usually have some crying sessions, you know, some retail therapy, etc, and pine for months if they really liked the guy, while guys seem to just be pissed for a few days (yet are pretty much normal) then go on their merry way.

It depends on the person. Some people never forget, even if they get into another relationship .

I have a friend that even after two years, is still in love with the girl that dumped him; and that's after going through a relationship that lasted 3 months in between. I got tired of telling him "get over her"...

Then, I knew a guy that actually commited suicide (for some other reasons as well, but his getting dumped was a week or two before he killed himself). Makes you go , but happens I guess.

I'm not as extreme (d'oh) as any of those cases, but it took me a long time to recover from one relationship that was really negative... a long time and a good girlfriend like the one I'm going out with now, of course.

GrimSqueaker wrote:Damn sucks dude-whole long were u with her?

I have only had to dump someone once and I am proud to say that i did not use a tacky catch phrase.

I went out with a totally psycho whore for 4 years, we even have a kid together and she was always treating me like crap-cheating on me, breaking up with me for a weekwnd if she wanted to go out and score, etc.
One time she tells me she needs some space, so i take the first step and go out that night score and dump her ass for good the next morning.

Instead of sayong "Lets be friends" I said, I know u are evaluating ur feelings for me-but dont bother i am finished with u" or words to that effect.

Very liberating, although tough to do, moe people oughta fess up and be honest-if something isa gonna hurt either way ehy be decptive?

Anywho condolances

I was with her for about a year and a half. My family just found out tonight. OF course my mother cried. THey all loved her. Ugh.

Oh well, I'm off for a week to spend some time in the bush and I can clear my head there. (I'm an outdoor guide so it's a work thing).