Sid Burn wrote:I think a lot of it has to do with being overwhelmed. I know that my folks planned my conception and my parenting, went all out to provide the above mentioned authoritative system, there was a dialogue and a genuine interest on their part in my opinion. It helped to make me feel involved, responsibility and discipline meant I had control of my young life. I was never spanked either, it isnt neccessary.
When my brother came along though, I think my parents were exhausted, the took a more passive approach, giving in to whatever he wanted just to keep him quiet. He wasnt planned and my parents just seemed to give up. Now 21, he is almost intolerable, he is incredibly lazy with an excuse for everything. He isnt respectful because he never experienced any consequences for his actions. The only one he speaks to with respect is me, and that is only out of fear of an ass kicking.
two kids from the same parents with two systems implemented, one worked and one has produced a very unlikable individual.
Seeing a young parent with 3-5 kids bouncing off the walls, I cant imagine them with any system at all. People dont take getting pregnant seriously enough. You are trading a night of pleasure for a lifetime of bondage, people dont seem to internalize this, they just assume they will figure it out as it comes.
hehehehe bondage

Seriously though, people should not be allowed to have sex if they are not prepared to care for the child properly. It isn't fair on the child that they are neglected and/or not looked after properly.
The government should really make it alot harder to reproduce without first proving that you are capable of caring properly for the child.
Or, just use damn contraception!