by cybercat » Thu Aug 13, 2009 5:21 pm
What our dear friend N_V is saying, in his completely inimitable style that *I* think is worthy of a talk show is this:
Girls are weird.
Possible scenarios:
*maybe she got in trouble and got 'grounded' and her phone privileges are taken away. (I don't know how old you/she are, but this might be plausible?) In which case, maybe some slack.
*She's too chicken to tell you she's not interested (in which case, do you want to date a rude chicken? I think not!)
*Or something crummy has happened in her life and she doesn't want to talk to *anyone* (again, do you want to deal with someone without basic courtesy?).
*She's a completely thoughtless person who was just stringing you along until something better came along (Whoa, son, you could totally do better than her).
* OR, she might be deriving some sick sort of entertainment in having you call back sounding all worried and confused. Sounds awful, but I know girls who have done that. Do you want a girl who laughs at your discomfort behind your back, simply because you're trying to get in touch with her? (That answer, honey, better be a 'hellz no', if not, report to Hellkitty's Deprogramming Camp ASAP).
Remember, girls have terrible social skills, too. And no one likes to break bad news. If she's trying to avoid you, which it seems like she is, that's her choice. She's not being very mature or decent about it, but depending on your age, that might be excusable. Most of us have enough of this sort of 'drama' by the time we're 18. If you're under 18, she might just want the drama for the sake of the drama. Which you want no part of, trust me.
It sucks to have invested time and emotion into someone and have them suddenly turn so...weird on you. But it's happened to, I swear, *everyone* here at least once--you're not the first, you won't be the last.
My advice (and I advise from a 'glass is half-empty and probably dirty, too' perspective) is to not feed her ego. It may be hard to resist the urge to pick up the phone, but *resist*. It will build valuable character later. And, having done it both ways, trust me, I regret the times I picked up that phone 'just once more' FAR more than I regret sticking to my guns. If she's decent, she'll come to you with a plausible excuse. If not, resolve not to waste a minute more of your valuable time on her.
There are girls out there worthy of your time. She's not one of them.
HK, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt.
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