Oi vey...
Big wall o' text... @_@
Gah... man... *shakes head to get brains back into place*
Wow, since that whole thing was rather hard to follow, I'm going to break it into small piece's and only target the ones that interest me. Some of it may be out of order because I'm doing it as it comes to mind.
MY TURN FOR A BIG POST!! XD
Firstly, about shaving, I don't do it for anyone but myself.
1) I like having smooth legs.
2) I think hairy legs (and armpits) on both genders is kinda nasty.
But that's my personally preference. And I'll agree with you in the fact that men CAN get away with it. Unless they're in the world of fashion. Can you say metrosexual?
And btw that's not really a bad thing. Nothing wrong with a guy wanting to have nicely styled, clean hair and wear nice clothes and be clean shaven (heck even everywhere if they want that).
And the last one is a requirement for professional swimmers. XD
But there are some guys (like at my highschool) where I'm like thinking to myself, yuck dude, you need to go wax yourself.
hellkitty wrote:So, American culture has decided, for example, that femininity involves submission/passivity, not very bright or authoritative, giggly, and it must spend its entire life in pursuit of a) beauty and b) men.
Don't know where you got that load of crock. That may have been true at some point, but certainly not now.
I do know girls like that (though I meet very view that would fit the description of "submissive"), but the idea of strong, independent, intelligent women is extremely prominant in current American society.
I'm sure there are people that still believe that way. I'm certin there always will be. But they sure as heck won't openly admit it. Not where I come from.
They'd be chewed to peices for being a chauvanistic sexist.
The only thing that I find true about the quote from you would be the pursuit of beauty.
You gotta be strong, smart, and independent. But you also have to be "hot". I've found that to be the worldwide ideal.
I'm smart. I'm talented. I'm imaginative. I'm am VERY strong-willed. And with all of those things, I'm pretty awesome.
But I'm not sexy. And sadly in modern culture, that can be pretty damning. Especially for younger people.
And about the women=emotion thing, what's wrong with that? I think in very logical and practical terms.
But I also find pride in being able to connect with the emotional side of the human brain. I think expressing feelings is very important. Some my call it gooey or sappy, but I think it's crucial.
You know, I've heard that some men can't get the concept of "a good cry". And I understand why. Crying is extremely emotional and if you aren't sad why would you do it?
But I openly admit to doing it myself. I mean, heck, sometimes you just need to let it out.
And tada!! You feel a lot better.
And about the boyfriend thing, I honestly wouldn't know. Most of my female friends aren't active daters.
And my two friends who do have serious boyfriends haven't changed personality wise at all. They act exactly the same way they have for the 5-7 years I've known them.
The only big difference was that for one of them, she went totally gaga for him and wouldn't quit talking about him. And she kept telling the same stories about him over and over again that she had already told us before. But that only lasted the first few months. Now that's it's just life as usual for her, she's back to normal.
Plus another thing is that me and all me gal pals are all into "guy stuff". That gaga friend I just mentioned, loves football. Another loves guitars. And I'm the cartoon/video game/comic book buff.
But I'm not really sure why you see it as a bad thing for girls to give in to doing what their boyfriends what to do or visa versa.
Ever consider that it is just simply polite to do what THEY want to do every now and again?
If I had a boyfriend who liked sports and really wanted to bring me along, I'd go. I don't really like sports, but it's nice to let them get their way sometimes.
Of course though in any relationship I have, they'd better return the favor.
Or just compromise.
I don't like sports, but I LOVE monster trucks. I'd go to a monster truck rally in a heartbeat.
But what you were saying about boys simply having their "own subjectivity"? Not having to be influenced.
I've actaully heard the opposite.
Biblically the first woman came from the flesh and bone of a man, but all men since then come from women. I've read that in psychology, men subconciously have to try to hold their masculinity.
A girl is just a girl. She's a woman from the body of another woman.
But a boy comes from the body of a woman as well. And in the way I read it, they have to try to earn their way into the circle of manhood.
But that's just one theory.
hellkitty wrote:And now, Siren Prime will run in terror from cyborg theory. Probably a good thing.
What?