The Energon Pub

Here's the situation...

I have a long time friend who just does not get it in the dating realm.

This is the kind of guy who is more comfortable having his mom arrange a date for him than going out and about to meet people.

No. We aren't talking about me. That would be funny, but I (and unfortunately for you ladies) am taken.

Back on topic.

The guy is well, average looking. He's maybe a big overweight, but it is in the football player build type of overweight. He's really nice, maybe a pushover at times.

His two main problems in dating are these:

1. He 'falls' head over heels for everyone he's into. Makes really stupid decisions gets 'needy' etc.

2. He's a real victim of having unrealistic expectations of women. He thinks "6' tall, 34-24-34, smart, funny, likes anime, and is happy to stay at home" is possible.

I've tried everything to help. I've tried yelling at him AND hitting him. Nothing seems to work.

Put on your psycologist hats Seibertron and help me set this guy up with a girl.

(and no...he definately is NOT gay Not like it didn't cross my mind though.)

Well, he needs to change his views on women. No one needs anyone who is needy or has high expectations as that leads only to an unhealthy relationship.

Maybe if you smack him a few times with a blunt object of some sort it might change his personality to be more outgoing???

I have a cousin who's in a similar situation and there really is'nt much that can be done unless the person in question is genuinely trying to be more rational about their views on relationships.

Until I read the two problems, I thought you were talking about me.

Have you tried getting him drunk?

It Is Him wrote:Have you tried getting him drunk?

Or maybe a hooker......or both.....or perhaps a drunk hooker.

Cover him in Vanilla pudding and sell him at a garage sale

bumblebeerocks wrote:Cover him in Vanilla pudding and sell him at a garage sale

May I ask why? If I can't see the logic in that then there is no way on earth that CP is.

robofreak wrote:

bumblebeerocks wrote:Cover him in Vanilla pudding and sell him at a garage sale

May I ask why? If I can't see the logic in that then there is no way on earth that CP is.

Good point. cover him in chocolate syrup and sell him at a flea market. everyone loves chocolate

take him to comic con. Theres plenty of anime ppl there.

Maybe he just needs time.

Or , have you tried a foreign bride for him?

olokin wrote:Maybe he just needs time.

Or , have you tried a foreign bride for him?

Naaah, shipping costs would be murder. Might as well just get 'em from Utah. I hear they have a buy two, get one free sale going on!

JazZeke wrote:

olokin wrote:Maybe he just needs time.

Or , have you tried a foreign bride for him?

Naaah, shipping costs would be murder. Might as well just get 'em from Utah. I hear they have a buy two, get one free sale going on!

Not true.

The LDS church ended the practice of polygomy a loooonnnnnng time ago.

bumblebeerocks wrote:Good point. cover him in chocolate syrup and sell him at a flea market. everyone loves chocolate

Sorry, that won't work either.

robofreak wrote:

bumblebeerocks wrote:Good point. cover him in chocolate syrup and sell him at a flea market. everyone loves chocolate

Sorry, that won't work either.

And why not? He could get at least $10 for him.

robofreak wrote:

JazZeke wrote:

olokin wrote:Maybe he just needs time.

Or , have you tried a foreign bride for him?

Naaah, shipping costs would be murder. Might as well just get 'em from Utah. I hear they have a buy two, get one free sale going on!

Not true.

The LDS church ended the practice of polygomy a loooonnnnnng time ago.

bumblebeerocks wrote:Good point. cover him in chocolate syrup and sell him at a flea market. everyone loves chocolate

Sorry, that won't work either.

tell that to warren jeffs and all those other fundamentalist freaks that marry off their little kids.

Warren Jeffs and those "fundamentalist freaks" are not associated with the LDS church. They're groups that broke off, decided to do their own thing and are no longer affiliated with the LDS church as those that created churches like the FLDS church were excommunicated for their actions. Please do some research.

robofreak wrote:Warren Jeffs and those "fundamentalist freaks" are not associated with the LDS church. They're groups that broke off, decided to do their own thing and are no longer affiliated with the LDS church as those that created churches like the FLDS church were excommunicated for their actions. Please do some research.

Actually Robofreak, before you jump on me and tell me to do some research. Take a look at the original post that you brought up the lds. That person only said utah, not a specific branch of anything. The flds operates out of utah as well so both of our posts hold true. So no I don't really need to do any research as I do know what I am talking about.

You know what? You're right. Sorry about that. I just find it annoying when people bring up the multiple wives issue and Utah as most people immediately think of the LDS church. It's part of the whole psychological concept of "word association".

I apologize for that and did'nt mean to come off as attacking you. We cool?

Now if we can get back to the subject of helping CP's thread, that would be great!

Actually, I think the FLDS church might be the best answer for him thus far...

Yeah we are cool, no biggie.

Counterpunch wrote:Actually, I think the FLDS church might be the best answer for him thus far...

Religion is always the answer, no matter what the question or how immoral it is.

Counterpunch, I am wondering if a change in self esteem would help your friend. Like get him to a gym and getting him to focus on working on his physique instead of girls for a while. My opinion is that if he does get a girl then he will need serious coaching so that he does not smother her and chase her away. I wish you luck and think it is awful nice of you to try to help him.

Energon wrote:Counterpunch, I am wondering if a change in self esteem would help your friend. Like get him to a gym and getting him to focus on working on his physique instead of girls for a while. My opinion is that if he does get a girl then he will need serious coaching so that he does not smother her and chase her away. I wish you luck and think it is awful nice of you to try to help him.

She's right. The problem start with your friend first. Not the outside world. He needs to work on being comfortable with himself and not be needy. It's not the physique, it's the personality, especially a strong personality that wins. I don't know if he has dated much, but I suggest that he tries a dating service. If anything, he needs to get out on a few dates first. Get himself comfortable going out, talking to new people. Let him know that it's not gonna work the first time, or the first few times, but as he works on it, hopefully he'll start getting better with dating and talking to women.

Sex Change?

bumblebeerocks wrote:Sex Change?

Do you think about what you're saying before you post it?

Original Sin wrote:

bumblebeerocks wrote:Sex Change?

Do you think about what you're saying before you post it?

25% of the time

bumblebeerocks wrote:

Original Sin wrote:

bumblebeerocks wrote:Sex Change?

Do you think about what you're saying before you post it?

25% of the time

You should seriously be more careful about what you post. I might be posting a lot right now, but I have'nt been trying to spam. There's a difference between posting for the sake of it and adding something intelligent to a conversation.

CP: Like what everyone else said, your friends self-esteem is going to need fixing before anything else. It might also be helpful to try and find him someone who will be a little more dominant in the relationship. I'm not talking about a dominatrice, I'm talking about someone who will take charge.